The point of all this is to get yourself out of your head and into the flow state. So, approach just purely to offer value and nothing more. And you can’t think your way out of approach anxiety.Ĭhat with everybody without having an agenda. Who cares? All you need to do at this point is to be as social as you can be.Īnd please remember, the more you try to avoid approaching, the more difficult it gets. And don’t be picky about this, it could be one girl and 5 dudes or even a couple of fat girls. You don’t even need to have an opening line as we have discussed in the first book. You don’t want the momentum to work against you. Also because there is excuse-making momentum and action-taking momentum.
You don’t want to do that because you don’t want the flywheel effect (momentum) to stop.
They scan the venue like a pack of hyenas. Most guys make the mistake of going to the bar or do anything but approach. Talk to the first set that you see in the club.
You may even get in for free if the bouncers like you. Talk to your roommate if you have one, talk to the old lady across the street, chat with the Uber driver on the way to the club and talk with the bouncers of the venue.īy the way, chatting with the bouncers will help you immensely for next time when you get back to the same venue. Talk to everybody as soon as you step out of your house. In order to do that, you must get in the habit of talking to everybody to get you in the zone. Madison (RSD) always says, “the night starts on the doorsteps of your house.” This means, like an athlete working on his training, you as well must warm up for the night.Īlso, you must get warm-ups before you even go out. This is an excerpt from my book, How To Have A One Night Stand By Pick Up GameĪs the game master, Mr.